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Mealhada
Mealhada, Portugal |
Mealhada, Portugal
Saying goodbye to Mathilda at Maria’s is really touching – she is so nice wishing me the best of journeys, as if we are old friends. It was her turn to cook for the first time last night, and it showed. But it was enough to just be there again, to soak up the atmosphere and store the memories forever in my brain. One day when I am sitting on the stoep of the Old Age Home I am going to remember the afternoon of spontaneous fado, the chickpea salad, the wine, the company. Of course I should go to bed, but thought I should just see if there is Fado again tonight. No luck. I decide to have a last glass of wine before going to bed. And after the last glass of wine I decide to take a walk up to the university to just soak in the atmosphere. Eventually I get to bed very late, very tired.
Far away from any church bells, thick walls, a pitch dark room – I wake up at 08h30. Bliss. HOWEVER – the One Sock Monster struck in the night! I now have three socks. ****! The two I have been wearing for a few (JUST a few) days could not be washed as it was cold and damp and when I last tried to wash them (well, on the first day) they did not dry. So now, they are like Frikkie and Frummel who come when I call! They are very happy to see me in the morning and jump on my feet. But now one is gone. How on earth does this happen? Where could he have gone? Well, it is very difficult to time everything. I don’t want to walk in the midday sun (only mad dogs and Englishmen), yet if I get to the Albergue too late it is not possible to do laundry as it will not dry. Another good reason to avoid the dormitories – just now my socks bark at another Perigrino!
A quick coffee at the station (my hotel was really a true station hotel – if you have ever travelled Europe you will understand). One get the 5* incredible old Savoy type hotels, or the really seedy Station Hotel. Mine was the latter – my bedroom window opened onto the laundry. And it was perfect, for 20 Euros.
The walk out of town is naturally through industrial parks and factories. Shortly after though there is beautiful, peaceful countryside. Just out of town I see another Pilgrim, give a friendly wave and move on swiftly. As my internal soundtrack is now one day behind, the day starts with “Strome van seen van bove, dit het die liefde beloof…” (“en wat daarop mag volg…” het my Oupa altyd gesê). Ek begin met ‘n Ivan Rebroff weergawe, want ek het ‘n effense padda in die keel vanoggend. It is a perfectly clear day, but it did rain yesterday and I did not walk, so hence I am one day behind.
It is really remarkable how one could be about ten kilometres (an hour’s walk) out of a city like Coimbra and find yourself back in rural Portugal. Small villages, houses with closed shutters, dogs and chains and no one to be seen on the streets. Houses falling apart, houses being built. Old and new living as neighbours. I get the idea that like in SA, many people are living out of town and working in town, judging by the renovations taking place in villages just outside of town.
In the first little town that I get to for my morning coffee, there are three other Pilgrims having a coffee at the cafe: American, blue eyes blond hair, wide eyed and bushy tailed. I take a serious, instant dislike in them. I do a friendly greeting and go inside to order my coffee. By the time I get back outside, they are ready to leave, which they do without a greeting. Inside the cafe it is dark, shutters down to keep the midday heat out. (And the flies, I think…). On a plastic chair next to the till, dressed in a black dress, stockings and shoes, grandmother sits, trying her best to chase away the flies. Thin grey hair tied back in a bolla, I think she is blind. I greet her and get no response. The daugther is behind the till, husband sitting on another white plastice chair guarding the coffee machine. I order a cofee, trying my best for the “negro” and “quente” (warm). I decide to let the Americans get a good headstart before I venture off. I really do not feel like company. While I drink my coffee, I hear one of those ridiculous hooters that sing a loony type tune. Next thing, a white van pulls up, honking away at this stupid tune. (You hear this on some Cape Town taxis….). Next thing, doors are flung open where I thought there was no life, housewives strut out with baskets. The van stops in front of the church, the driver jovially greets everyone, opens up a side door and voila! A wonderful display of breads, sold by the kilo, weighed on his scales. Suddenly there is life in the village, chatter and natter, laughs and shrieks. And then – back to deadly silence again. (But for the last lady who walks back to her house, takes a deep throat clearing and spits a gob that could only have been green). My stomach turns!
On the way I notice many small things. Amongst others, the hands of the old men sitting outside their homes or in the village square. Their hands remind me of the trunks of the olive trees – deeply knuckled with black crevices left from years of working, cutting and pruning. I wonder how these hands touched their women. In the next village, a deaf woman is sitting on the square with her friend. As I approach them, I see that she is using a mixture of sign language and sounds. She is telling her friend about her stockings for blood clots and how expensive they are. But more than that – and this time with much sound and gesture – what a PAIN they are to put on and how they hurt her. With cats and dogs, fruit and flowers, I continue on my way. In every small village a local would stop and ask “Santiago?”. When answering with “Si!’ they respond with the most endearing, thoughtful and genuine “boa viag!’. Every time I am touched by this.
Walking away from the village, I wonder why I took such an instant dislike to the three American youths. I know why. At that age, I was all angst and depression, trying to get over my paralyzing existential crisis of not being “normal” and not fitting in. At 30, I had spent my life being bullied, humiliated, trying everything in my power to understand what was going on in my life, and knowing that I will never have what these boys have. That hero life where girls swoon at your feet, where you are the first team rugby captain, dreaming of your house with a picket fence and 2.2 children, the dream job in the dream firm. Instead, I was dragging myself between weekly therapy sessions, haunted by my secret life of shame. Their “unbearable lightness of being” triggered all those feelings of not being good enough, not fitting in. Now, at 50, I have peace, I love my life. And yet, deep down emotions are still triggered from time to time. I decide to take a break on a little bridge crossing a stream, just to soothe the soul.
Lying there, I hear a Woodpecker pecking away at a tree. I know that I have come a long way on in this life. And I am grateful. Eternally grateful.
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